Heat 125 ml of milk , add sugar(if needed only ) to milk ,and keep aside.
Roughly chop deseeded dates and soak dates in milk and keep it closed aside for 30 minutes.
Drain milk and keep it aside. Add Dates to a blender and blend it to a smooth paste ,by adding milk.
Take a nonstick pan, heat 1 tablespoon ghee/clarified butter,fry cashew pieces till golden brown ,keep it aside.
In the same pan,add blended dates paste and cook for 8-10 minutes,when colour starts changing add ghee,mix well,till ghee gets incorporated with dates cook for another 5-8 minutes,till done.
Turn off heat,add ½ tablespoon of ghee fried cashews and cardamom powder,mix well.